Eighth house venus in virgo
My chart features Venus in the eighth house in Virgo. This is what I’ll call a double debbie, 2 debilities. I haven’t found many personal accounts of this placement on the internet, so here I am. Debility inflicts a planet’s power either directly or indirectly. Venus is in fall, a direct debility, when in Virgo. Any planet located in the eighth house has an accidental, or indirect, debility. Debilitated planets highlight areas in our lives that require more awareness and nuance, as they are considered unfortunate in traditional astrology. If you are also a Virgo Venus in the eighth, you might have already encountered a lack of the Venusian in your life. Personal experiences vary. While some people mourn this lack, others may only briefly reflect on it. The upside of this position is apparently a graceful death, which I will never be able to verify for you here. I do, however, have a few observations and advice on living in this Venus in fall in the eighth life.
Venus in Virgo
The Venus return usually signals the most powerful time for kick-starting Venus-themed projects or partnerships in my experience. This year, Venus won’t hit Virgo until September 20th, but I still meditate on what I consider the positives of this placement:
Experiencing service as the most meaningful expression of a relationship
Honing attention to detail and cleanliness (in relationships and surroundings)
Preferring modest dress and minimalism in decor
Framing excessive emotions within a rational framework
Finding health and organization skills universally attractive
The archetype of the Virgin encapsulates this position well. Venus in Virgo is in fall because she is not in her element. In “The Birth of Venus” the goddess is depicted as rising from a shell, naked, with only hair and hands to cover up. Two winged creatures, one male and one female, appear to be blowing her to shore. Venus in this natural habitat is dynamic and, quite frankly, naturally sexual. There is nothing taboo about her nakedness or movement on the waters. Whether in creating art or children, her birth from the sea of emotion and imagination is facilitated by some type of desire. There are many types of desire and love. However, Venus in Virgo steps onto land and adopts a nun's habit. She is concerned with the wheat fields that are her inner life, only desiring the premium needed from the world to support her withdrawal from it. For the nun, a willful departure from worldliness, or what is demonstrably Venusian, is natural. Her romance is transcendent, depending on an inner conception and daily interaction with the higher worlds through prayer and meditation. Venus in Virgo can translate as having a lack of desire, worldliness, or even emotion and imagination in relationships, as our feelings are usually going through a mental screen rather than being felt immediately. We are concerned with being ‘right’ in our version of Venusian expression.
Venus in Virgo in the Eighth
If I had to associate this placement with a tarot card, Virgo’s airy Mercury ruler combined with Venus’s constraint in the eighth would give me the 8 of Swords. For me, the experience has been typical of this tarot card; there will usually be a need for freeing oneself from the natural tendency towards isolation, barring other more social placements in the chart. This is because the eighth house favors the development of deeper, some would say intense, social or romantic outcomes. Given this house's nature, important relationships should be carefully considered before started.
Stranger Things
Venus, among other things, is about how we relate to other people. The eighth house is a spooky one, the house of Scorpio in the zodiac. Due to more prominent air and fire positions in my chart, I am not entirely comfortable with the types of individuals that are usually attracted to me. In fact, if this would have been the medieval ages, I probably would have become a nun from this fact alone. It is not a lack of opportunities to be matey, but the nature of the potential mates that lures me to single life as safe haven. Venus in the eighth tends to attract prospective partnerships embodying eighth house interests: sex, death, shared resources, crisis remediation, and possibly occult or other deeply psychological subjects. While we eighth house Venus natives may project a sultry, serious, and sexual air, Venus in Virgo desires a more sensible and correct partnership. We’re not interested in someone looking purely for sex, a roommate, a therapist. Prospects can be numerous but poor in their intentions.
Negotiables and non-negotiables are not Negotiable
I once learned this from a famous astrologer. With Venus in the eighth, you might not experience what I’d call an ephemeral Hallmark version of love. When I find someone suitable, it feels like nothing short of a miracle. However, the trade off is predictable: relationships develop with an intensity or even an unusual fatefulness. Therefore, it is important to have negotiables and non-negotiables to navigate the Halloween that Venus in the eighth is. That isn’t to say you won’t have treats, but there will likely be generous tricks as well. Having non-negotiables helps you navigate the whirlwind intensity that partnership development can be with this position. You might be single for 3 years, and suddenly someone is asking you to move in with them after dating for 3 months. This is also advice for those who are considering dating someone with Venus in the eighth, as the most negative manifestation of this position can be Venus in a transactional position. The eighth house is the house of shared or inherited financial resources. If badly aspected, there may be a materialistic approach to love, where money or assets are seen as a form of relationship validation.
Relating Through a Crisis or Extreme Change
There is something about life crises that initiates relationship development. While I may be in a truly tame period of life, the person I’m dating will more than likely be at some sort of pivotal moment in theirs. The crossroads is an eighth house archetype embodied if there ever was one. Venus in Virgo tempts me to help or advise, but I have learned that this is not wise. Venus in Virgo loves to “fix,” but this impulse is truly an illusion of the ego. I have learned the art of genuine listening. I am not perfect. I have also been in the opposite situation of finding someone draw close in a period of personal crisis where I was tempted to lean into the possibility of of having an on-call therapist. Where I’ve landed here is that I or the other person should exhibit competence in navigating our own path of uncertainty and change. If we show this ability, it’s a major green flag and a relationship can develop naturally. However, even this new relationship will come with an element of significant change-initiating crisis for one or both parties, almost as if by karmic contract. There may be cross-country moves, the potential for significant financial gain and loss, or dating into an internal paradigm change, such as religious conversion or transformation of values.